Children – at various times in their life – may exhibit different types of fears. This can be very frustrating for many adults that deal closely with the child that has fears, but it does not have to be. It is very important for adults to understand that the fears that children have are a necessary and normal part of life.
Many child development specialists have noted it; that children learn to deal with uncomfortable situations by facing their fears and these aids in dealing with more serious issues that they will face later in life. Therefore, the child that experiences fear and learns to adjust to those fears will face challenging situations later in life on a more productive level. Fear also helps to protect people from dangerous situations and things that are unhealthy.
It does not matter if your child has a fear of their closet, their pediatric dentist, or the tree outside of their window, the information contained in this brief guide is sure to help you assist your child in overcoming their fear.
Typically, children who are very young will express particular fears. Some of these fears may include various types of monsters, the fear of the dark, and the fear of the unknown.
These are usually very normal fears that the child can overcome with your assistance. One of the first things that adults can do to assist a child with fears is to listen to them and understand that their fears are very real to them. While having a fear of a monster in the closet may seem outrageous to us, it is very real to the child experiencing it. Listen to the child when they express their fear and the reasoning behind the fear.
This develops trust between you and the child. The child will grow to trust you with their feelings and will feel important because you care enough to take the time to listen to them.
Once the fear has been established, it is important that you let the child know that you have fears too. Help them to understand that being fearful of something is normal and is a positive thing for them to experience.
If the child is afraid of something in the closet, or other parts of the home, you should allow them to take you to the place that they are afraid. You should then investigate the area with the child and show them that nothing is there. If there is a noise in the home that scares them, you should try to identify the sound.
Once you have established what is causing the sound, you could show it to the child and then do your best to try to make the sound stop to comfort them even more. Some parents have been noted to perform a ritual to get rid of the things that the child is afraid of. If you feel that this may work, you may do it too.
You and the child may gather some necessary items, like a candle and candleholder, and other things. You could light the candle and use the other items that you gathered and tell the thing that the child is afraid of to go away. This will help the child to believe that it is gone and that you supported them in making it go away.
If you have very scary items in your home that are causing fear within your child, you may consider putting these items away until your child is old enough to understand that these things mean no harm. Some of these types of items may be figurines, pictures, paintings, and other things. It may take some work, and you may have to learn to miss the items, but your child will be comforted and that is all that matters.
If your child is fearful of their doctor or their pediatric dentist, you should consider talking to the professional about the fear. The individual may allow the child to come in and spend some time with them. Often, it is the fear of the unknown that makes a child fearful and not the medical professional. If a child is allowed to become familiar with the doctor or the dentist and the types of activities that they perform, they will become more comfortable with that individual. Pediatricians always make adjustments for kids who are fearful. In order to ensure that your child’s dentist is making adjustments, you must opt for a pediatric dentist. Dentists that handle people of all ages are often so busy and overwhelmed that there is very little care and dedication taken to help those who are fearful of them and the services that they provide.
This article lists just a few of the ways that you can help a child overcome fear. It is important that you understand to listen to a child when they are afraid of something. Many children who have been physically and emotionally abused often express fears in certain things. This is not always the case, but if a child seems exceptionally fearful to stay at a person’s home, or leave with someone, you should consider the causes for this and research more.
If you find that a child is frightened of a certain place or person, you should not force them to go to that place or with that person. Cancel all plans, stay at home, and try to find the reason for the child’s phobia. It may be inconvenient, but you may be glad that you did later on. By taking the steps contained throughout this brief guide, you are sure to find that your child becomes increasingly braver.